Transcending Preferences

When I first came to understand about dualism and how this principle influences our tendency to operate from a state of preference, I was taken aback by the realization that I had been incessantly wishing for circumstances to be otherwise. I felt compelled to address this pattern. Little did I anticipate the findings that ensued.

The program of wishing for otherwise and somewhat finding fault with what came my way seemed unending. I hadn't realised the immensity of this and how the mind was stressed in perpetual pursuit of improvement. 

Understanding an idea is one thing; witnessing its recurrence repeatedly is truly disturbing. I found myself struggling with aversive reactions, criticizing myself, yet knowing this process to be unhelpful. This shed light on the reasons for my frequent distractions despite my sincere intent to be self-aware.

I persisted in awareness and whatever limited understanding to keep observing and learning repeatedly, unraveling the complexities of stress and limitations. Over time, I began perceiving reactions as mental occurrences rather than automatically attributing them to my identity. This perspective opened the doorway to noticing the various mental expressions without taking them personally.

This understanding enabled me to break free from the autopilot mode, avoiding unwise reactions. It fostered consideration from multiple perspectives, including those of others and habitual mind traits, transcending potential conflicts.

In this understanding, a sense of liberation emerged. I could now relate to others without expecting them to be other than what they're displaying. There was no longer the pressure for them to be better, yet not be resigned to their limited traits. 

Join me in this wonderful exploration about the mind.

In grace,
Nancy Cheah
30 Jan 2024