Mind Healing

Wonder how much pain most of us went through as a child? Seeing and/or hearing family members shouting at each other, being scolded for something we felt unfair about, being regarded as a lesser child in the family, being lectured by teachers for laughing too loud, being criticised for being too naughty as a girl or crybaby as a boy and all the mocking, ridicules and "unacceptance culture" which society threw at us.

We may grow up being strong, capable, independent, smart, charming, aggressive, competitive, analytical and more.

Or we may grow up being isolated, hateful, angry, sarcastic, judgmental, or depressed.

Or we can see both in us.

But most of us hardly wonder if there is anything wrong with the way each of us is. Or when we do feel something is not right, we may brush it off and move on with the "busy-ness" of life. And soon enough, we forget.

Yes, there is indeed nothing wrong, as we are still part of the "unawakened dream" after all. But all those different traits, are they really who we are, are they really what we think we would be without the scars?

Over the course of this year and last, I've learnt, and realized, that despite all the laughter and smiles and "thick-skinned-ness" we don in our adulthood, the pain the child in us went through has never been wiped off. The mind, and the body really keeps its scores.

Underneath independence can be the fear of being abandoned. 
Under nonchalance can be fear of not being loved. 
Underneath competitiveness can be shame of being not good enough. 
Underneath strength can be guilt of being weak. 
And the all-encompassing fear of being vulnerable, and stress of coping with life.

I have been all of that, and it has taken me many moons to slowly recognize what damage has been done to my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. The undoing process is "loooong", but soothing, as on the way of self-healing, our right-mindedness sure makes arrangements for us to meet the most loving teachers and spiritual friends that help us find our ways through the darkness of the unhealed mind.

Scars are unfortunately part of being human. And as I've talked to people from different walks of life, observed people from different upbringings, no society is not guilty of scarring, one way or another. Scars are personal, yet impersonal, in this sense.

And it is indeed only through healing your past that you can embrace life, although being happy or unhappy are both part of the cyclic existence, neither being better than the other.

And the mind has to go through that gradual process, part by part, pain by pain, to ultimately be totally healed, and become the unconditional love we all were created to be.

If you happen to feel unhappy, and are seeking help, reach out. There are many options. By just listening to some youtube tracks like Ho'oponopono, by asking trusted friends to hear us out, or by looking for courses like inner child healing, free or fee-ed, or by meditation, and many other modalities, we can start the process of undoing.

We just need a leap of faith, that a more joyful and love-ful life is awaiting us, as long as we are willing to take the first step to look within.

Beyond this first leap, however, on the journey to healing your mind you may find that understanding, given, intellectualized, or internalized, is crucial to progress and acceptance. Without the principle of looking within and comprehending that all situations have their causes and conditions to manifest as well as to be undone, our healing will stop at surface level where it feels good, or things around us may change for the more comfortable, yet the root causes remain hidden, awaiting conditions to challenge us again.

Having said that, a perfect modality/teaching that would guarantee our ultimate healing isn't to be forced upon but rather, just to be embraced naturally, not without us keeping in mind that everything has its time and place, and is part of what is arranged for us in the flux of time, to help us eventually mend all that is broken.

In grace, 
Linh 
on behalf of The WISE Team 
Newsletter 13 October 2020