Are you familiar with the “don't-want-to-do” mind? I am sure you are. There are many things we don't want to do. Like many of us, we are so busy with our lives that we never take time to ponder what this mind actually is and instead, and more often than not, we subscribe to it, or if we don't subscribe to it (i.e. do what we don't want), then we grumble or complain about what we have to finally take on.
There are many moments of this “don’t-want-to-do” minds spread throughout the course of our day. If we are pretty well-versed in being aware of our minds, we would probably notice how frequent this “don't-want-to-do” state takes over us; e.g. the “don't-want-to-wake up” mind when the alarm goes off in the morning, the “don't-want-to-go-to-office” if given a chance, the “don't-want-to-budge from where I stand” while on a public transport, the “don't-want-to-share with another” of what I already have, the “don't-want-others to be better than me”, the “don't-want-to-offer another a chance to explain”. These are our usual encounters which we seldom question except continuing with them as if they are our fundamental rights.
And there are bigger stuff to this “don't-want-to mind” too. Like, the “don't-want-to-move from our comfort zone” when a new offer is given. The “don't-want-to-take-on new responsibility” fearing it will be a burden later on. The “don't-want-to-explore new potentials” even if given a chance. These are seemingly the big stuff that we resist daily when we are being given an opportunity. Mainly, they are related to fear of incompetency, fear of failure, fear of don't-know-how. Or even fear of the mess that may come along with it if we step into the unknown. Notice that all the stories we have in mind are stories of past experiences weaved together which is made real for us. But we seldom step back and ask why we are still believing something of the past though we would have grown much from who we were before. Or have we?
So what really is this “don't-want-to” mind? Resistance. Or more precisely, aversion. The nature of simply adhering to the incessant game of reject that is deeply inherent in the mind that disallows a chance for mature thinking, for contemplative exploration or even for the overcoming of our mental limitation. It is a kind of defilement – a mental block, that is not really etched in stone if only we give ourselves a chance to question our mind, to explore, the willingness to take the risk of moving out from our comfort zone to something beyond that defines much more than just “don't-want-to”.
The next time the “don't-want-to” mind pays you a visit, do take time to ponder on this nature, finding out for yourself whether it is beneficial or unbeneficial to subscribe to it. You will be amazed that it is not that difficult after all to overcome it. It can be just an unquestioned veil of complacency, of not willing to try, of not able to reach up. How then are we able to reach to the heights of those who have perfected those immeasurable mental attributes if we were to believe entirely on the “don't-want-to” mind? Are we able to be done with it once and for all?
So to start off with something small, question the mind that wants to go back to sleep again in the morning. Is it beneficial? Does waking up immediately yield the great attribute of “determination” in you? Encouraging this quality one more time will add on to a powerful force in the mind that in time to come “determination” will be a useful quality to have. Join us in our upcoming workshops for such possibility in understanding your mind better.
Hor Tuck Loon