Have you been upset lately? Being upset is quite a common daily experience. It can happen so frequently in any of our interactions that we may lose count of it. Or, worse still, we are totally oblivious to it as it occurs. It can happen while we are reading the news headlines or browsing social media or when we are not greeted or acknowledged by someone else or if our spouse snores or our children is impolite to us. We can also get upset if our body’s health is not to our expectation, if our neighbour is seemingly inconsiderate, if we bump into someone we dislike, if we perceive someone on the road as being impolite. We can get upset with practically anyone, even those we least expect to. Even laws can upset us too! Not to mention the many rigid rules which we encounter day to day that make us grumble silently. The list can be inexhaustible if we were to write them all down. Anything can be a cause for our upsets.
In summary, situations, events, or even people can easily trigger us and make us upset. It is just beyond our control. And the funny thing is, it is not only happenings which have taken place which can upset us. Happenings which did not take place, can upset us too! In brief, getting what we don’t like upsets us. Not getting what we like upsets us too. Wow!
With our frequency of upsets, it is no wonder happiness is our constant pursuit. Achieving happiness is actually a relief to our mental unease. With our fast tracked lives these days and the endless stresses we are living with, happiness is a rare commodity to come by indeed, and paradoxically, pursuing it, at times, causes us even more stress! Our desire for happiness, which is so rare and fleeting, is behind nearly every one of our motivations. Happiness eludes us by the frequency of discontentment, upsets or unmet expectations which arise in our minds instead.
In the long term, what each of us really need is finding a way to overcome upsets or even stresses. Contrary to the common belief that happenings, events or people can upset or stress us out, what if we come to realize, one day, that our mental unease has much to do with our internal beingness or how our mind actually perceives those happenings, events or people. It can be a surprising discovery, yet rewarding at the same time, and the crème of it is that happiness is its natural result, instead of us needing to seek for happiness.
WISE’s primary mission is to use mindfulness or awareness as a tool in educating the public about the misperception of upsets and how one can skilfully undo the mental dynamics that lead to upsets. Many have benefited from this. And if you are one of them, and are now reading this article in your Facebook, do click on the share button so that more can benefit from this practical approach. And for those new to us, you are most welcome to join us in our upcoming courses, details of which can be found at www.wise.foundation. These courses have been fully sponsored for your benefit. All you need to bring along is your curiosity and interest to learn. You will be thrilled by the new found reality about upsets.