All of us have our fair share of issues in life. No doubt, it will be difficult to accept when life presents us with hardships, challenges, no support, antagonism, conflict, or even hatred from another. Any of these may affect our minds, causing us to be disturbed, uneasy, uncertain, or to lose confidence.
What can we do for ourselves at such times so as to minimize distress in the midst of braving through the storm of such happenings? We may not know how long it will last, and truly that is not our concern, although, more often than not, we would wish it to end sooner rather than later. There are things we can avoid but there are also situations that we just can't. How best can we deal with those situations then?
In a way, it will be a wise thing to do to take the first step to reflect on the reality of such situations. Reality, not in the sense of the storyline of what is going on, but rather the ongoing happenings as a fact which cannot simply be dismissed but must first be acknowledged. Acknowledge that the happening has arrived at our doorstep, and then decide how it can best be addressed. Any complain or resistance of that happening will only make matters worse.
The next step is to know clearly that what is happening is one thing, and how our mind reacts to it is another. In fact, our reaction is the cause of our stress, not what that is happening. If we are able to respond skilfully to it, what is happening would not have posed a problem, showing clearly our attitude towards the event is what matters.
In this way, it is true to say that what happens is not as important as how we relate to it. Anything can happen. We can't dictate happenings. But how our mind relates to happenings determine our stress or ease. That is why knowing our mind a little better is beneficial in the long term and that can only be realized when we take up the training of being mindful of our own mind's reactions.
Mindfulness is the key in unlocking the mysteries of our mental behavioural patterns in the midst of any situation. Do join us in any of our upcoming sessions and I am sure you will find the new learnings enlightening. The health of your mind really matters.
Hor Tuck Loon