There’s no harm in judging someone else (or so we think!), since we are doing so out of our own freewill and we can do it privately within our own minds without anyone knowing about it. This is prevalent in all of us, regardless of whether we have been advised that it is not wise to do so. Yet, the fact is that there are implications to judgments. Here are a few things you may wish to consider.
Thought Never Left Its Source
In truth, a judgment is nothing more than thoughts running in our minds. That thought is actually our own mind, not outside of us. So what we think and what is outside of us are totally different things altogether. What does that mean? When we think negatively about other people, we are introducing not just negative thoughts in our mind, but we also have to feel the negative emotions for ourselves. In other words, we have been tricked into thinking that it feels good to judge but on the contrary, what we experience are negative or unpleasant feelings in our minds when judgment takes place – it is not "out there".
We Are Affected By Our Own Thoughts
If judgmental thoughts are from our minds, and never left our minds, that would mean we have created an imaginative state, a projection that actually didn't happen. But we thought it did and without even realizing that, we believed entirely in the judgment and that it is really about someone "out there". And what does that actually mean? It means we are affected by our own thoughts and not by what is actually happening outside. Ignorance is its effect.
When we don't notice this delusion, these mental fabrications, we conclude that such and such a person is “like that” and thus he or she became a victim in our minds, held ransom by our thoughts. We have unknowingly created a new burden in our minds that we cannot just resolve overnight. I call this mental obesity – a burden that only clutters the mind unnecessarily. The more we judge the more we are burdening our own minds – we are no longer free although we started out thinking that we are free to judge others. More importantly, we cannot be peaceful as a result.
Judgment Becomes Us
Finally, when we keep judging, whatever we think becomes a reinforced condition or view in our minds. It not only reinforces a habit of being judgmental but also reinforces a perceived reality that we didn’t know is our own mental fabrication. People around us then become targets of our false ideas. Those perceived ideas become us, not separated from us. Over time, what we don't like outside of us, became us, literally – we are what we think. Not only that – we will soon judge ourselves for the same happenings we don't like. A loop which makes us fall into negativity more than lovingness.
Mindfulness or awareness helps us check this unhealthy mental behaviour. And the development of mindfulness has many more other advantages in addition to this. So do consider joining us in our upcoming activities.
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