There are two worlds. The outer apparently looks real, solid and seemingly away or separated from us. The inner, which may not be as obvious, is our responses or reactions to the outer world.
This inner world, is a world of its own only private to us. It is aptly referred to as “our world” because it is not separated from us, and more than that, we smell, see, taste, hear, touch, think and even imagine or fantasize within it. Judging, worrying, being angry, lamenting, feeling guilt, loving, being kind, being helpful, being generous, pleasing another or even manipulating another are all within this inner world. It is our very own mind.
The question you can ask yourself is – do you really experience the outer world, or, is the inner world your ONLY direct reality of the day-to-day moments that you can ever experience? What about considering that the outer world is more like a mirage that makes you chase after it?
Hear this – “why is he doing that again”, “can’t she see that I am busy now?”, “there’s just too much work”, “my spouse is not respecting me”, “you should have known that”– all these are common expressions but do you notice that they are your own direct experiences, your own inner world, where no one else can experience it for you?
Have you ever wondered if we are really experiencing an outer world, or in reality our ONLY experience is our inner world? Seeing and then complaining, judging and thinking about what we see – isn’t that all ours to chew internally?
Any time when you are stressed, the mind will usually blame something on the outside world. The next time it happens how about considering turning the radar inwards by observing why the mind is stressed? Is it the thoughts of complaining about the outside world? Is it the thoughts of unfairness? Why do they arise in the mind and why does that make you feel terrible? Is it your choice to think that way or do they arise on their own accord? That you are a victim to these thoughts and in return you victimize the outer world?
By investigating this way, you give yourself the chance to enter into contemplative meditation in daily life. Meditating, without trying to meditate. This contemplation won’t disrupt your time since it is just a change of awareness direction; instead of investing time on the outside, you now invest time looking inside. All the time taken to blame the outside world will instead be skilfully converted to knowing your own mind a little better. Isn’t that wise? Transforming pain to gain!
Well, if you notice this one reality, much of your stress can be reduced. Why? Because the more we complain, the only one who experiences that is ourselves, not anyone out there. So what can we do about that since we can never escape from our own inner world?
Be wise. Not that we are not already wise, rather be wise about the very mind we are carrying and experiencing moment to moment. The mind that caused us to look outward, the mind that makes us think it is the world outside that is unfair – though the unfairness is our mind that is expressing itself – which again, comes back to show us that we are the ONLY direct recipient of it.
We can’t change the world to fit into our needs. We can seemingly do so at times, but even that, it is still our own direct mind experience that is trying to change the outside, and it is again the mind which experiences fulfilment or joy out of it. Both are, again, experienced by whom? And those, again, are ONLY experiences. We got nothing from the outer world in reality. Only mind experiences.
So being wise here means learning to be aware of our mind as much as we can. It is a new learning curve of understanding why our mind is producing more stresses than necessary. We may not have the answers overnight but it is the right direction to explore since your “life” is nothing more than mind states and activities, moment to moment. Your whole life is just that, though you may not know that at this moment. So what are you waiting for? Seize the “moment” to grow wisdom!
Welcome to WISE where we will show you the skills in growing wisdom to reduce stresses, in making your mind more wholesome in regards to the world. Make growing wisdom your number one priority in 2018.