It’s a few more days to the end of 2016. A year that seemed long and short at the same time. For many it is time to relax, spend time with family and for others it is catch up time to complete work and meet deadlines. This is a wonderful time to see if we are generous or stingy. We are all familiar with being generous or stingy and it is normally guided by criteria such as how much abundance we have, our relationship with the other person, time we have on our hands and our mood at the moment. Sometimes the result of our generosity and stinginess may not be what we expect.
Today I wish to talk about being generous or stingy from the aspect of what we want our life to be like. Many a times, I notice that I am very generous with criticism and judgement on others’ conducts or actions or behaviour (irrespective of the person). I am also generous in bestowing criticism and judgement towards myself. On the other hand, there is a lot of stinginess in seeing the good in myself and in others, stinginess in giving people the benefit of the doubt and stinginess in allowing a kind word to escape from our lips. Inevitably, we are the ones who will be living with this generosity and stinginess in our minds and bodies. Do you notice when you are more generous with criticism and judgement, and stingy with care and kindness, the result is stress and tension in the mind and body — we smile and laugh less and worries seems to be more?
So, for this holiday season and for 2017, lets make a conscious effort to be aware of what’s going in our own minds so that we can catch what kind of generosity or stinginess is happening in the mind. Maybe with just a little bit of awareness, we can be generous with care and kindness and be really stingy in criticising and judging ourselves and others. I am sure you will see how it impacts the quality of your mind, speech and action. Peace begins within!!
We at Clove&Clive would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year and may conditions be right for wisdom and love to prevail in all aspects of your life!!