Do you notice that whenever something happens in your life, there always seems to be just two options for you to choose from. For example, to buy or not to buy? To quit or stay? To invest or not to invest? To wear this outfit or that outfit? To eat here or there? To speak up or shut up?
For mundane choices, we probably don't give to much thoughts about them, BUT if it is something we perceive we cannot handle, we tend to think, ruminate, worry, calculate, discuss, dream, pray, cry, etc. Even when we had made a choice, we tend to ask "What if?" — so the agitation in the mind continues.
So it seems for us that life is like what Shakespeare says, "To be or not to be". It seems like the mind is hardly at rest mode with all the activities happening. Hence we get tired easily and age quickly. BUT, life need not be this way. Do you notice that every decision we make seems to take place in the mind first. If the mind is not stable, we will know that the decision we make will back-fire and there will be more fire fighting to do later on. So the key thing to take note of is not the decision itself but the MIND that is making the decision.
A mind that has clarity is different from one that is murky. My teacher wisely mentioned that, "When in doubt, firstly do nothing". Secondly, step back and check your attitude so that you can observe the emotions and not the thoughts. When the emotion has settled, re-look at the issue. By this time, the mind would seem to have more clarity and space.
And the next thing you know, another way which was not considered before, may pop up, or you may see a missing piece of information you need to get more clarity on the situation. In short, there is another way, the wisdom way.
If you are open to learn about wisdom and befriend your mind, do consider checking out what Clove&Clive has to offer in the coming weeks.